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One of my favourite timepass is to randomly 'google' search for names and read the blogs of those who maintain blogs in their own name as domain name. Eg.krish.com, harishankar.com, senthil.com etc. It is always intresting to go through the blogs of individuals because of an inherent honesty in it. There is nothing written to appease / get approval from some editor, so 99% whatever they write is what they feel from their heart. Many of them have been actively continuing blogging where some have slowed down considerably over a period of time. But irrespective of the frequency of the blogs, a reverse / chronological reading of the posts gives an idea about their growth as individuals. Surprising part is that most of them have started around 2005 (including me). Try this for yourself!!!

My professional websiteஉங்களுக்கு நீங்கள் கல்லூரியில் படித்த Maslow theory of hierarchy நினைவிருக்கிறதா? மனிதனின் முதல் / அடிப்படை தேவை - வாழ்வாதாரம் சார்ந்த உணவு, உடை தேவைகள் பூர்த்தியடைந்த பிறகு அடுத்த கட்டமான உத்தியோகம், பணம் சார்ந்த தேவைகளை மனம் நாடுமாம். அதுவும் பூர்த்தியடைந்த பிறகு அங்கீகாரம், அதிகாரம் ஆகியவற்றில் மனம் செல்லுமாம். நமது வாழ்வின் ஒவ்வொரு செயலிலும் இந்த Hierarchy அல்லது படிக்கட்டு பின்னணியில் இருப்பதை பார்க்கலாம். படிகளை கடப்பதில் ஒவ்வொரு மனிதனுக்கும் வெவ்வேறு காலங்கள் ஆகலாம், அது அவருடைய மனநிலை மற்றும் தேவைகளை பொறுத்த விஷயம். எனது வாழ்வில் நானும் கிட்டத்தட்ட அந்த மாதிரியான ஒரு சந்தியில் நிற்கிறேன்.

Click the image to read furtherகுழந்தைகள் - இவர்கள் தங்கள் அப்பாவித்தனத்தாலும், அழகாலும், சிரிப்பாலும் நம்மை சந்தோஷப்படுத்துபவர்கள் மட்டுமல்ல, நம்மை தங்களுடைய சிறிய சிறிய செயல்களால் பிரமிப்பூட்டுபவர்கள் மட்டுமல்ல, சமயத்தில் நம்மை அதிர்ச்சிக்கும், ஆச்சரியத்துக்கும் உள்ளாக்குபவர்கள். நான் முன்பே சொன்னதுபோல எனக்கு புட்டூவை பார்ப்பதிலேயும், அவனை ரசிப்பதிலும் தான் அதிக சந்தோஷம். ஆனால் கடந்த வாரம் புட்டு கடந்த வாரம் ஒரு மெல்லிய அதிர்ச்சியை கொடுத்தான். அந்த அதிர்ச்சி சில கேள்விகளை உண்டாக்கியது. ஆதிக்கு கோபம் கொஞ்சம் அதிகமாக தான் வருகிறது. அதற்காக அவன் எப்போதும் அடம் பிடித்துக்கொண்டு இருக்கிறான் என்று அர்த்தமில்லை. ஆனால் கோபம் வந்தால் கொஞ்சம் அதிகமாக வருகிறது.

GuestIt is always nice to have guests at our place on weekends, get togethers as we believe that presence of others make a difference. When I recently saw the trailors of upcoming Hindi movie - "Athithi tum kab jaaoge?", I got reminded of some occassions where I had felt - why I invited certain people? It is sheerly their behaviours at that time which made me think like that but not having any hatred towards them. Sometimes certain people come to a get together but behave as if they had come for watching certain TV program alone, or having glued to the mobile making the rest's presence not mattered. So this post is about a couple of incidents where I felt when this guest will go?

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It is really embarassing to write such posts, but the increasing indifferent attitude of people and the courtesy (lack of it) towards other human beings in the common amneties, make me write so. I really doesn't enjoy such cribbing posts, but somebody has to raise the voice. When these guys use the restroom, they don't bother to either lift the seat cover of the lavotary seat or wash it by spraying / using the water pipe, so that the next person as a courtesy. When the next person goes in, he is greeted by the soiled lavatory seat that irritates / infects his ass. Same goes for people who don't know which button to push for the elevator. If you press the upward button, the elevator will pick you during upward journey and down arrow for down journey. But many guys (that too educated) press the up arrow button "to invite" the lift from down floor and they want to travel down from that. This causes inconvenience for people when the elevator makes un-necessary stops. From the outside it may even make us laugh that a hill is being made out of the mole hill.

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Recently my friend mailed me these photos with the subject as "அட ராமா! இவன் அடங்கவே மாட்டானா? (Oh! God will he never be calm?)”. After seeing this I really got irritated at the poster. Will Tamil race never get sensible? When we are going to stop creating such 'Gods'?. Admitted that the poster may not be brainchild of the concerned actor or even it was approved by the actor's close circle, the persons who created such poster will definitely have tried this cheap gimmick to get into the good books of the actor. Instead why can't they directly suck the dick of the concerned actor or pimp their wife/mother/sister to this actor get favours from him rather than insulting the religous sentiments? This actor early tried to used 'Gitai' (short form of Bhagavad Gita) as a film name. When the Hindu organisations opposed the move, his father was supposed to have commented "Any form of publicity is good for my son, so let it be" rather than apologising. Thankfully that movie flopped. Coming to this issue, I am really surprised that nobody raised abjections for this filthy poster... Bastards, they should be hanged to death. Anyway as long as such idiotic fans exist, these actors will survive....

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On a Chennai road who is most dangerous? Autorickshaws? You come closer... Second choice... Shuttle cab drivers... you got still more closer.. take one more guess... Cyclists? Yeah! The cyclists form the dangerous co-passenger in Chennai roads. Please my intention is not to look down the people of lower strata who can't afford bikes / cars, but my anger towards the cyclists and the pedestrians is that they are above the road rules, causing inconvenience to the majority of travellers. Cyclists are lucky in the aspect that they don't follow the signals, can barge in any traffic stream and still get away with the sympathy of the onlookers, leaving the motorists high and dry. Well.. I am peeved with the attitude of our people that they don't need to follow rules just because they can't afford motorcycles. Whereas the people with high end SUVs again don't feel like respecting the road rules and signals just because they are rich and above the law.

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வாழ்க்கையிலே எது கற்றுக்கொண்டேனோ இல்லையோ இஷ்டத்துக்கு அறிக்கை விடக்கூடாது என்பதை தெளிவாக கற்றுக்கொண்டேன். சிறிய வயதிலிருந்தே எனக்கு எதை பற்றியும் ஒரு திடமான அபிப்பிராயம் உண்டு. அது சரியா தவறா என்று ஆராயாமலேயே அதன் அடிப்படையில் அறிக்கைகள் விடுவது உண்டு. ஆனால் கடவுள் "மகனே! நீ ரொம்ப பேசிட்டே.." என்று எதை நான் செய்யமாட்டேன் என்று மார்தட்டிக்கொண்டேனோ அதை வேறு வழியில்லாமல் செய்யவைத்துவிடுவார். பல அறிக்கைகளை இப்போது என்னால் சொல்ல முடியாது (சுயமரியாதை தடுக்கிறது) ஆனால் சொல்லக்கூடியவை ஒரு சில... உதாரணத்துக்கு - "எத்தனை கோடி கொடுத்தாலும் சென்னையில் வேலை செய்வதைகாட்டிலும் அபுதாபியிலோ இல்லை கோவையிலோ தெருவில் பிச்சை எடுப்பேன்...." ஆனால் விதி வேறுவிதமாக விளையாடியது. இப்போது நான் 2 ஆண்டுகளாக சென்னைவாசி. மனதுக்கு பிடிக்காமல் போனாலும் சமரசம் செய்துக்கொள்ளும் திறன் இல்லாததால் எப்போடா இந்த ஊரை விட்டு போவோம் என்று ஒவ்வொரு நாளும் பொழுதை ஓட்டுவது ரொம்ப கடினம். இது கூட பரவாயில்லை ஒரு நாள் பொறுமை எல்லை கடந்தால் வேலையை விட்டுவிட்டு ஊரை விட்டு ஓடிப்போய்விடலாம், ஆனால் கல்யானத்திலிருந்து..?

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I always believed that you are most happiest soul in the world. I always looked up to you for the vivaciousness and vibrancy. Peri rightly told that you are a band of frequency, who can get along with people of any wavelength. When I heard your suicide news today (Gulf News, thatstamil), it took a long time for me to sink in the truth that you are no more with us. I have been hearing of your depression for past few weeks. Whatever problem that had bugged, you could have spoken/let out. When CM told that he is scared that you might take some extreme steps, I just shrugged it off. But today I am feeble enough to face the reality. You influenced me in many ways. It was because of you I was able to reinvent myself with confidence, your ardent devotion of Illayaraja's songs, Tamil literature had rubbed on me. I will never be able to forget you in my lifetime. Vaithy, we all loved you a lot, yet you didn't feel like sharing your trouble with us? You spread happiness in many of our lives but unfortunately you didn't let us do the same in you. May your soul rest in peace.

{mosimage}Finally I have decided to sever my ties with cousin sister Shenbaga and my uncle. This came close to the heels of the problems being escalated to parent's level. The bone of content is my closeness to my niece & their daughter Ammu. Like I have mentioned in my previous blogs, she was the girl simplicity personified. She didn't get the needed affection from her parents and her brother. She settled with where she got them - her friend's circle. May be I understood her problem, I always had been kind to her. Similiarly with Meera, my another niece. Whenever I go to Meera's house in Coimbatore, we (Meera, Uma, Ammu and I) always have a good time and last time on New Year Eve, Ammu gave her long overdue treat - the one for her salary increment.