Forpast few days article no. 377, in the Indian Constitution had been in news. It is about criminalising Homosexual activities. Many famous writers and personalities had requested the government for decriminalising the homosexuality, thus giving it a legal status. This blog is not about discussing about that but today I saw a programme called "Life's like that" on TimesNow TV, about "Infidelities in a relationship". All was blah.. blah... about the infidelities in a marriage life, which something was cliche, something new, but what I found bugging was a participant's outburst on infidelity in a Homosexual relationship, while the notable thing was - he is a student.
Few years back when I was very much interested in Human Psychology, I had read books on the psyche of abnormal behaviours like child rapists, suicide victims and alternate sexuality. So as far as I know out of every 3 men, 1 (or 2, I'm not sure) are subjected to some form of homosexual acts at some point of life, after which the individual changes / remain unchanged because of the genetic structure also. Even though it is claimed to be genetically carried forward, another theory is also there that it can be imbibed rather than by birth. Most of the homosexuals tend to be so until they are exposed to heterosexual intercourse, after which they shed their homosexual status. People who continue to indulge in homosexual activities even after their heterosexual experience are called as bisexuals.
Homosexuality, unlike being called as a "western phenomenon", has its traces in ancient Indian culture also through the depictions by sculptures in Khajuraho. Catholic church condemns Homosexuality & masturbation as sin, as according to the religion any form of sexual act is basically to produce babies only not for self indulging. Since British rules had their moral codes from Catholic church, according to law Homosexual activities are criminalised. Now with changing times, many countries including US & UK had legalised Homosexual activities, while India hadn't worked on it. Indian Police is the most benefitted from the Section. 377, as corrupted police personnels use it as a tool for defaming & taking revenge.
OK! OK! Before this blog becomes preachy or otherwise, let me change the gears. The guy (or gay)in the question was complaining about his partner, who is many more years elder to him, betrayed his faith on him, thus accusing of infidelity. He said that every person in a relationship should be committed and he stayed loyal to his partner by not having affair with other guys, but his partner breached the trust by having other gay affairs. This participant guy attributed the age difference and generation gap as the problem for their gay affair breaking up. He added that his partner said that this guy was too young to invest on a relationship, also this guy had to finish his studies, he is breaking up their affair. This young guy was crying on the chat show.
I couldn't stop feeling sorry for this guy as I feel that his partner had taken him for a royal ride. Not only he had taken advantage of his adolescence, but also had exploitted this guy in the name of "relationship". This is the problem of falling in any sort of relationships at too young age. As far as I know, except the marital relationships, "infidelity" doesn't come in any other form of relationship. In friendship - you can say that your friend betrayed you by robbing your things, defaming you or by doing something that had put your reputation at stake, but can somebody claim that their friend had betrayed by getting close with some other person?
Homosexuality, unlike being called as a "western phenomenon", has its traces in ancient Indian culture also through the depictions by sculptures in Khajuraho. Catholic church condemns Homosexuality & masturbation as sin, as according to the religion any form of sexual act is basically to produce babies only not for self indulging. Since British rules had their moral codes from Catholic church, according to law Homosexual activities are criminalised. Now with changing times, many countries including US & UK had legalised Homosexual activities, while India hadn't worked on it. Indian Police is the most benefitted from the Section. 377, as corrupted police personnels use it as a tool for defaming & taking revenge.
OK! OK! Before this blog becomes preachy or otherwise, let me change the gears. The guy (or gay)in the question was complaining about his partner, who is many more years elder to him, betrayed his faith on him, thus accusing of infidelity. He said that every person in a relationship should be committed and he stayed loyal to his partner by not having affair with other guys, but his partner breached the trust by having other gay affairs. This participant guy attributed the age difference and generation gap as the problem for their gay affair breaking up. He added that his partner said that this guy was too young to invest on a relationship, also this guy had to finish his studies, he is breaking up their affair. This young guy was crying on the chat show.
I couldn't stop feeling sorry for this guy as I feel that his partner had taken him for a royal ride. Not only he had taken advantage of his adolescence, but also had exploitted this guy in the name of "relationship". This is the problem of falling in any sort of relationships at too young age. As far as I know, except the marital relationships, "infidelity" doesn't come in any other form of relationship. In friendship - you can say that your friend betrayed you by robbing your things, defaming you or by doing something that had put your reputation at stake, but can somebody claim that their friend had betrayed by getting close with some other person?
A marraige is an institution built on the premises of faith and compatibility, so any deviation or straying is termed as "infidelity". Since it involves irreversible damages not only to the concerned individuals, but also to the respective families, infidelity leaves scars. But in things like friendship, where the individuals in question grows and changes based on the life experiences, I believe wavelength fluctuations and entry / exit of newer people, on the grounds of professional reasons as well as other pastures are inevitable. So having newer friendships and getting closer to them is I can't term as "infidelity". But getting excessively emotional in the friendship and feeling "infidelity", is something I could call as "blind obsession". Hope somebody can explain this guy in the chatshow that what he had was an "obsession", not a relationship. A commitment in a homsexual affair is something ridiculous.In the same talk-show, I found the meaning of the phrase - 7 years itch. Interestingly it goes like this "In a human body, the cells die and change in every 7 years, so it is bound to bring changes in the individual's behaviours and attitudes whenever this phenomenon happens. So in a marriage, the persons change in that 7 years and may / may not be of same wavelength anymore, thus bringing separation". Don't know whether this is the real meaning of the phrase, but that's what was told.
